What strategies do you use to cope with negative feelings?
I grew up with so much of it,
My dad treated women with less value than men,
Men as if you were afraid of them,
My older sister dad adopted when she was eight,
Diana didn’t fall from far from her apple of a father’s tree,
Diana’s father was a wife beater ,
So anything you didn’t go die in his way she’d lie,
Diana was married five times,
All men she was married to found an escape clause,
Filed the divorce,
Last husband Daniel Ahers was in two ten,
Wedded blist last a year,
Diana thought she’d go at a different way to get her what she wanted,
Diana started gaslighting her mom,
Calling our diabetic mother seventy times a week,
Trying to force her to leave her home and moved to Granbury Texas,
Mom loved her home, Marian D.Heike, told Diana my friends are here my family’s here and my cat and my home I am not going to Texas to live,
Ten times a day Mom said no,
So Diana ended slander into the mix,
I was a full-time student having returned to college at fifty,
I drove Amish and tourist gas money and car repair,
Evidently having a gay sister allowed my sister to have a tool,
Every year she made two annual visits of terror,
Who do you call when!
Who would believe us!
Diana Lee Dudley nailed shut!
For all to see Diana was a dutiful honorable good-hearted loving perfect daughter,
and 209 while she was dating Dan she brought him up to Iowa with a phone that wasn’t going to go into their new home,
the phone had five phones off of Base,
I just bought mom to Vitech phones,
Nicest phones mom ever had!
Mom wasn’t interested in her cell phone,
For Diane’s plans to pass muster she needed mom to be able to be reached at every moment of the day or go the phone five off one base,
This was an annual visit but this time Diana brought Dan,
Diana love no stones unturned,
Diana told Dan fell hit you and you need to call the law on Val,
I never hit anybody I was fifty-two years old and I never had anybody I kept my youngest nephew Craig when he was two and he said fucker something he learned from Shawn his father,
I was upset Diana knew that I had just gotten mother brand new phones and still she brought these old crappy things,
Our mother always saw the best in everyone even when she was being treated poorly,
Dan took me aside and told me if I hit him he was going to call the law,
I had no idea where he got such an notion,
I guess it took him a year to realize Diana was full of shit,
One annual visit Diana used dad’s hacksaw in the stairwell ,
Sawed off a brand new faucet mother and I had gone to Menards in Lacrosse Wisconsin to buy and my friend David Yoder of Bishop of the Amish community had installed it ,
It was on and working fine for about a week,
Then Diana came to visit ,
Damn thing came off of my hand,
Funny thing about Menards they will not replace a lifelong faucet warranty that falls off in one week,
That was in two twelve the year dad died,
But before September,
September 3rd I sat my first class and Luther College in psychology of Education doctor Deb Fordice was my professor,
September 3rd, the day Diana sent to Human Services of Iowa to walk in our back door telling them mother was an invalid and bedridden and left for hours without a phone after she’s beaten and in order for them not to be hurt they need to go and see mother when I wasn’t home,
There’s Diana’s lie again from 2010,
That night was the first time the Heike’s of Waukon,Iowa ever locked our doors,
They scared and terrified our mother my two strange man walking in her back door they were told not to knock or ring the bell mother’s that mother was bed ridden and she can’t get to the front door,
I read it in her paperwork 56 lies she told Human Services Iowa to get two strange men to walk in our back door,
I had been accepted to Luther College on the word of a judge and my poetry,
I wore my country’s uniform twice,
My bond is my word,
Diana took mother’s desires to live in her own home with her gay daughter and her mother away for her own ganes,
Diana wanted my granddad’s piece of property in northern Wisconsin it’s called Cub Lake 270 acres in Chipquamigan National Forest with a half mile Lake all spring fed no inlets are outlet,
Diana was always stepping over the boundary with her Gaslighting and lies,
Called my friend Judy who passed away this fall ,
Diana did her best to soil our relationship,
I paid all the phone bills and internet and cable,
I had the proof,
Diana called my advisor at Luther College Dr Jeanette Pillsbury,
Told Dr Jeannette that she and Mom and my little sister Ellen we’re going to commit me,
Nothing happened she was lying,
You tried going to school knowing only what your being told is going on ,
I didn’t know till two fifteen that Diana had placed me on elder abuse in two twelve,
In two fourteen in August Diana the game again another anti,
Diana called Mom told Mom that if I returned to college in September she would drive to Waukon, Iowa and force mom into a nursing home or take her against her will to Granbury Texas,
That was an impossibility Diana didn’t have two nickels to rub together,
Mom was scared,
Mom was eighty-six years old and scared shitless of her older daughter,
Mom came to me in tears begged me to stop going to Luther College so I stepped out of college,
It’s also on the records at Luther College that I stepped out of Luther in August at two fourteen,
I sent crappy ass Iowa Human services sixteen pages of proof what Diana had done to mom and me,
No one cared,
No one looked at the truth,
One hundred thousand family members a year are lied on to elder abuse because Human Services don’t give a rat’s ass!
October two fourteen Diana visited again,
This visit of terrorization was one for the books,
Diana stuck her fist in mother’s face,
After she had rifle through mother’s belongings mother woke up found her in her room digging through mother’s property,
That’s something we would never have done we were raised better,
I was in the den and I heard mother screaming,
Mother was in tears when I got to her door,
Diana was standing there yelling at me get away this is none of your business,
Everything that happened to mother was my business, Diana is October visit
On Diana is October visit,
Diana removed all the smoke alarm she can find,
Except the one that was in the stairwell,
That was the one that saved mom’s in my life on 2nd of December I had a priest come talk to Mom,
Diana do everyday what happened to our house the night before,
Mom had told her that he had discussed how we could keep Mother safe from Diana which included putting me on the power of attorney,
Diana could not have that she’s spent years telling everybody how what a monster I was and your mother was going to put me on her power of attorney,
It was on the October visit Diana put her fist in mom’s face and yelled at her said we didn’t have anything of value and we had no rates to have doors locked,
That was a day hour lights went Out in Iowa,
Two thirteen mother was told she had to go to Texas to see her grandchildren who didn’t come to see Grandpa before he died,
It was supposed to be a two week stay, you can hear Gilligan’s Island TV show song in the background,
See Diana figured she’d get whether to Texas and then just not let her go home,
Mom got her grandson to take her to the airport and the woman who had a year before been told to the Human Services of Iowa she was veteran flew home from Dallas to Omaha and drove from Omaha to Spencer Iowa,
Then from Spencer to Waukon, Iowa ,
On the 3rd of December two fourteen, I did wash I didn’t use the dryer by ten o three pm ,we had no laundry room,
the stories are too many to mention I forgot them the question what I didn’t do is what she wanted I didn’t take my life when she ruined it,
Val Whitewolf 